The Importance of Communication In A Relationship
Answering the all important question, why is communication so important for a successful relationship? Here I also highlight how learning effective communication skills can improve the vitality of your relationships.
Lack of Effective Communication Causes Unwanted Problems
When you have a problem in your relationship that you’ve chosen not to share with your partner, you contribute more towards the problem than you realise.
Marriage and Money
A perfect example of this is the concept of marriage and when it should be discussed whilst in a relationship.
If you’re stuck in a relationship waiting for your boyfriend to propose to you; you’re going to be waiting for a very long time for something he may not even want.
However this problem mainly stems from the social attitude that only men should propose to women and that we as individuals or as a collective, are not responsible for our happiness or our lives.
Which as you have probably noticed, is a limiting belief.
Effective communication enables you to sort out your problems with ease together, and have fun at the same time.
This is because you have someone close to you who will support you whilst you’re in need, therefore your problem will be compartmentalised, as you’re sharing the load.
Which in this instance, refers to telling your partner some home-truths about his/her spending habits and how it is effecting the relationship.
Strengthens The Levels of Trust, Honesty and Respect
Learning how to effectively communicate with your partner will strengthen the trust, honesty and respect you have for eachother and the relationship.
- Can you trust your partner if they fail to remain in regular contact with you whenever they say they will? How many times will it take before you raise the issue as a legitimate concern with them?
- Being honest with your partner about your weaknesses is a sign of effectively communicating with them as you’re saying “this is who I really am.”, which in turn builds trust.
Communication in a relationship is extremely important because it acts as the judge, jury and executioner who has the final say on whether your relationship lives or dies.
Being able to communicate effectively can also stop needless arguments which occur regularly in your relationships.
Dictates Morale In A Relationship
Being able to effectively communicate in a relationship is the perfect way to show your partner how happy you are within it.
Being tight-lipped about a problem will only hurt your relationship and your partner in the long-run.
I’ve had direct experience in this area and I’ve learnt so much about myself and how I actually cause some of these problems myself.
I might not have been the direct source of the problem, but I do know and accept that I’m certainly a part of it.
“Are you worried about me meeting him?”
“No, absolutely not – you can go ahead and do whatever you want.”
“Are you sure? I won’t meet him if you don’t want me to.”
“No it’s fine honestly! – Go ahead, I’m not going to restrict you, besides he’s just a “friend”.
I’m sure you can probably figure out what happened in the following weeks and months.
Always listen to your intuition.
Even if it makes you out to be a controlling, possessive bitch.
It’s only trying to protect you anyways.
Sometimes we just need to tell people exactly what’s on our mind, exactly how we feel and make it clear as day.
Otherwise you’ll just end up being taken for a ride, in both a metaphorical and literal sense.